A few days back I was separating the clothes that were to be put into the washing machine for washing (obviously!). The usual categories – coloured and whites separately. That is when I came across this shirt, black and white stripes shirt. And well, I am still confused as to where that should have gone. Is a black and white shirt a coloured shirt or does it get categorised under the “whites”?
Therein lays the problem mostly with my decisions too…some situations and people fall into neither category! Starting with which, why do we categorise people as black and white (literally and figuratively) in the first place? Is it just me or does everyone have a category is the mind of “good” and “bad” people?
When I was small, the area was pretty much well divided. A person, who told lies, is a bad person, one who steals is bad, and one who shouts is bad too! And a good person, sadly, what defined a good person was never told, it was only the “lack of this” is a good person. So, one who does not tell a lie, who does not steal, does not shout, is a good person!
Then I grew up, I lied, I stole a hello kitty pencil pointer, my parents shouted, did it make us all bad? No! My justification was, even though I lied, I did it so that I shouldn’t get beat up and be yelled even more by my parents, thus making them even worse! I stole, but also leant it out to people, so I was a good person. 😛
Somewhere down the line, my ideas of good and bad become very rigid and highly cleared! No need of the lying/ stealing/ yelling nonsense anymore! So, one who smokes and drinks is a bad person, and one who abstains from it, is a good person. Pretty much what all pre teens think? Then, I was introduced to the concept of “social drinking”, drinking at parties, at weddings, at get-together by all near and dear to me.
So, where did this put me? Was I a bad person too? In company with all the people who are bad? And then, the final of things that I can remember. Now I have friends who smoke, who often drink. Who think its normal to do both. And well, rather than being away from them, I have accepted them as quite close friends now. They’re nice people, not the Bollywood idea of smokers and drinkers who are always the villains.
So, smoking and drinking, you’re off the list to. I think now its time for me to accept the clichéd “grey” character. No one is truly bad or good, just somewhere in between! So, to all those different grey shades in my life, you make my life colourful!
P.S.: I wish there was a “grey” area for striped shirts too! Will someone tell me which category do they fall under while washing??