That Silhouette in Grey

A few days back I was separating the clothes that were to be put into the washing machine for washing (obviously!). The usual categories – coloured and whites separately. That is when I came across this shirt, black and white stripes shirt. And well, I am still confused as to where that should have gone. Is a black and white shirt a coloured shirt or does it get categorised under the “whites”?

Therein lays the problem mostly with my decisions too…some situations and people fall into neither category! Starting with which, why do we categorise people as black and white (literally and figuratively) in the first place? Is it just me or does everyone have a category is the mind of “good” and “bad” people?

When I was small, the area was pretty much well divided. A person, who told lies, is a bad person, one who steals is bad, and one who shouts is bad too! And a good person, sadly, what defined a good person was never told, it was only the “lack of this” is a good person. So, one who does not tell a lie, who does not steal, does not shout, is a good person!

Then I grew up, I lied, I stole a hello kitty pencil pointer, my parents shouted, did it make us all bad? No! My justification was, even though I lied, I did it so that I shouldn’t get beat up and be yelled even more by my parents, thus making them even worse! I stole, but also leant it out to people, so I was a good person. 😛

Somewhere down the line, my ideas of good and bad become very rigid and highly cleared! No need of the lying/ stealing/ yelling nonsense anymore! So, one who smokes and drinks is a bad person, and one who abstains from it, is a good person.  Pretty much what all pre teens think? Then, I was introduced to the concept of “social drinking”, drinking at parties, at weddings, at get-together by all near and dear to me.

So, where did this put me? Was I a bad person too? In company with all the people who are bad?  And then, the final of things that I can remember.  Now I have friends who smoke, who often drink. Who think its normal to do both. And well, rather than being away from them, I have accepted them as quite close friends now. They’re nice people, not the Bollywood idea of smokers and drinkers who are always the villains.

So, smoking and drinking, you’re off the list to. I think now its time for me to accept the clichéd “grey” character. No one is truly bad or good, just somewhere in between! So, to all those different grey shades in my life, you make my life colourful! 

P.S.: I wish there was a “grey” area for striped shirts too! Will someone tell me which category do they fall under while washing??

7 thoughts on “That Silhouette in Grey

  1. 1st things 1st…really nyc post!i lyk the way u speak bout such everyday things and can strike a chord quite easily

    and here's my view…v put most things in grey areas to spare ourselves the agony of disliking people and giving oursleves more opportunities to be happy about.after all…who wud wan 2 hv lesser friends?

    now the drinking/smoking part…they r wat 1ce ppl considered as “vices”.once virtues and vices become common..they start to become just HABITS and people r no longer judged by them.for eg:saying thank you and respecting elders is a virtue,but since they r so common..there is no special preference for such people in our hearts tho v lyk them.
    Same thing with drinking/smoking/swearing isn't a problem since they r common.imagine a day when porn-watching becomes common,or drugs..then even such things shall cease to be of importance and go into the “grey” area.
    Incidentally,a guy came upto me today and asked where cud he find a place 2 buy a cigarette.I wasn't shocked since it has happened before.but imagine a guy walking upto me and asking where he could get marijuana or porn.I'd be shell-shocked!
    I'v almost writen a blog here 😛 to jus say that-you subconsciously feel that because some crap is common..ITS OKAY.


  2. @Varun…at some level you are right, as vices become common, we stop seeing them as vices at all…it becomes an accepted norm…true! But frankly, the fact that something is a vice or a virtue is decided by majority or popular consensus..and I think it could be categorised as the “tyranny of the majority”, however, when the majority decide the other way, like in the case of smoking, then that is the accepted norm, right? So who told us that taking drugs or watching porn is bad? Majority consensus? So, once it becomes an everyday habit and common enough for the majority, like say legalised as in the USA, obviously it will cease to have the kind of reactions we have for it today!

    Makes sense? Funny the way the society works!
    And btw…I still say my thank yous, sorrys and please whenever necessary…so those things are appreciated I must say…

    So here's another blog-ish reply to you blog-ish comment!

    @Caren…thanks sweetie! 🙂 Read the others too…


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